But I’ve been celibate since breaking up with my last boyfriend three years ago, and I wish I could find joy in hookups and casual sex the way my friends seem to. I’m definitely not asexual I loved sex and intimacy in my last few relationships. I love talking about sex, reading this column, exploring erotic comics (my favorite medium), and masturbating … but when it comes to getting down and dirty with a new partner, I find myself backpedaling as quickly as I can out of intimate moments.
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I have no idea how to initiate intimacy-or if I even want to. You’ll want to keep it low enough that you can still speak to each other if need be. It might be a fun thing to experiment with. Usually you’re trying to dampen the sounds for other people, but why not yourself? Some people even find certain kinds of music erotic. My point here is that music is a great camouflager of sex sounds. We had to change rooms and be much quieter to avoid a repeat of our rudeness. The people next door got fed up and started blasting pop music. Speaking of hotels, there may be another, more reliable solution: One time, I was shooting an adult film in a hotel. Ask anyone with neighbors who share a wall, or who has slept in a hotel. Sure, it might be slightly repressive, but sometimes we do these things out of compromise. You might make a fun edging game out of it-stop whatever stimulation is causing the sounds every time they start. I think it’s possible for him to learn, over time, how to be quieter. Is it possible to manually adjust the sounds one makes during sex? Should I ask him to? I’m really turned on by him otherwise, but I can’t go on forever hearing the cries of injured wildlife when we’re getting it on. The strange thing is, he seems to realize these noises are unusual and off-putting-he constantly apologizes for making them, even midsex, but says he can’t help it that’s just how he sounds when he feels good. (Both in our late 20s/early 30s, been dating for four months or so.) He just kind of whimpers as things start to get hot, particularly if I kiss him on the neck or elsewhere on his body, and he legitimately sounds like a small animal in pain.
Sorry to be blunt, but that really is the problem. I hate the sounds my boyfriend makes during sex. Send your questions for Stoya and Rich to How to Do It, How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. I Discovered an Upsetting Theme in My Husband’s Browsing History. I Have the Perfect Solution to My Husband Wanting Sex All the Time-but It Has a Twist
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